My kids are growing up. I don’t like to think about it and I certainly don’t talk about it, just ask my husband. He likes to bring up the future and he gets the look of death. I wish I could stop the continuous march of time, and just always have the kids be my little babies. Unfortunately, there is nothing I can do. It is relentless and unavoidable.
That’s not to say I don’t have moments of frustration. It is hard not to lose it when you’re asked the same questions over and over again. But the other night, when I heard my son call out, like he does every night. Instead of getting annoyed, a lightbulb went off in my head. One day this will stop and I immediately felt empty.
Mommy, can you tuck me in?
It happens every night. We say goodnight, give love, and put them to bed. My son ends up out of bed playing his room, while my daughter reads. It is how they unwind after the day. I’m the same way. But it never fails, that as soon as I get comfy on the couch, starting my show on the DVR, he calls down to me. Mommy will you tuck me in?
Like I said, I won’t lie and say I never get frustrated or groan to myself. That night though, it hit me, and hard. The sweet, angelic voice calling to me, loves me. And when these nights come to an end, I will be sitting on the couch, uninterrupted, listening to the silence.
The silence of a house with no kids, with no one who needs me, and no one who wishes for me to tuck them in. In that moment I know the tears will come. They are coming now.
And on that day I will think of all those little requests and miss them. Parents, I know it’s hard somedays. But I’m making a silent promise to myself and to my children to be present, to stop minding that they are “interrupting me,” and to never overlook how precious this time we have together is. Because honestly, I want as many of these moments as I can get. As if somehow storing them up now will make it easier when they are few and far between. I don’t know if that is true but I like to think it is.
My daughter started middle school this year, and I was reminded of that saying the days are long but the years are short. I hate that saying and I hated people who said that to me. Thinking about it, I’m pretty sure my hate for the cliche stems from that fact that deep down I know it’s true. All I need to do is look at our photos on the wall to see just how much the kids have grown. Now as I sit here contemplating them growing up, I’m ready to admit the truth behind that saying.
Watching my son grow into a little man has been fun but hard. I looked at him this morning before school and thought, when did you get so big? He asked me why I looked sad and I said oh you know I want you to stay little forever. He laughed, said “I can’t shrink,” and went about getting his backpack ready for school. Immediately it flashed in my mind, the days of him asking me to tuck him in, one more kiss, one more hug will be over before I know it.
Moms, I know it has been a long day. The kids have probably driven you up and over the wall. I get it. Silence and stillness are coming for you in the future. One day you won’t have anyone to talk to except the dog or cat. The house will be quiet, the floors cleaned. You won’t even trip over Lightning McQueen left in the middle of the floor. No one will care where you are, what you are doing, and why busses are yellow and not lime green. And that day will be a sad one indeed.
My word for 2018 is present. I want to be present in my children’s lives, not taking for granted the little bit of time I have with them.
To my baby boy, Mommy will always tuck you in.
Celebrate cooler temperatures and the leaves changing with these 10 Fall activities for kids! Plus grab a free Fall scavenger hunt!
I love Fall time. Take time to play in the leaves yourself. Who said kids should have all the fun?
2. Scavenger Hunt
Grab yours here: Free Fall Scavenger Hunt
3. Nature Hike
4. Pumpkin Patch
5. Leaf Jumping
7. Read a Book
8. Fly a Kite
9. Watch the Sunset
Ready to watch the sun set and eat s’mores!
Need tips on how to get started? Try this Geocaching For Beginners post.
No matter what you do outside, don’t forget to bring some healthy, tasty snacks.
Thank you GoGo squeeZ for sending us your new fall flavors!
Get them before they are gone! The Limited Edition Apple Pumpkin Spice and Sour Apple Raspberry Lemon Twist are going to be your kids’ new favorite flavors of GoGo squeeZ. And like other GoGo squeeZ products, these Fall flavors are:
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Dairy, Nut, and Wheat Free
No Added Colors or Flavors
No High Fructose Corn Syrup
No Yucky Stuff
GoGo squeeZ make a great candy alternative for trick-or-treaters or allergy-friendly school parties. I plan on having them as special treats during my son’s not so spooky Halloween party. Download your free GoGoWeen kit to get cute wrappers for your GoGo squeeZ and see what other spooky cool ideas GoGo squeeZ has for your Halloween!
What is your favorite Fall activity for the family?
We received free GoGo squeeZ products for this post. All opinions are our own.
Your kids are going to love these wickedly cool Descendants 2 dolls from Hasbro. They are a must have for any Descendants fan and doll collector. But don’t take my word for it. The kids are here to share all about the dolls!
Thank you Hasbro for sending over these dolls. Affiliate links included.
In Descendants 2, Mal returns to the Isle of the Lost to find her enemy Uma, the daughter of Ursula, teaming up with Harry, the son of Captain Hook, and Gil, the son of Gaston. She has to save Ben and decide where she truly belongs.
And now you can act out your favorite scenes with the new dolls from Hasbro.
Think dolls are just for girls? My son thinks Jay and Carlos are the coolest villain kids ever. He couldn’t wait to play with the dudes of Descendants and show off their killer dance moves.
It might be a little early to be thinking Christmas, but these dolls are sure to be on the top of your kids’ lists!
Hasbro did an awesome job with these dolls. They are vibrant, poseable, and hours of fun are to be had playing with them. The kids have only put them down to go to school. Darn school!
That smile you get when you are twinning it up with Carlos De-Vil!
Now when their favorite movie is on, they have so many ways to be W.I.C.K.E.D. You might want to clear some floor space, those dances can get pretty intense!
Watch as the kids unbox the new dolls and share their excitement for Descendants!
This post is sponsored by Hasbro. Amazon affiliate links included. All opinions are my own.
I don’t know about your house, but in mine, we have been listening to and watching Descendants 2 non-stop since it debuted in July. So it is no big surprise that dressing up as one of the main villain kids is at the top of my daughter’s costume wish-list. Lucky for me, Oriental Trading has so many ways to be wicked this Halloween. My girl is ready to trick-or-treat in this cool to the core Descendants Mal costume!
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Does your daughter want to be Mal, Rey, Wonder Woman, or a cute kitty cat? Make her dreams come true with all the top Halloween costumes and accessories for girls.
This deluxe Mal Isle of the costume comes with a jacket, top, pants, and one glove. You can’t be the ruler of the Isle of the Lost without the iconic purple hair. So don’t forget t0 grab the wig to complete the look.
Sass not included, but I think your daughter will be able to pull it off too!
No tricks, just really awesome costume options.
Oriental Trading has over 5,000 costume options and over 1,000 accesories to complete the look! That means every member of the family, even the four-legged ones, can find something to rock on Halloween. One stop shopping for Halloween costumes, party supplies, and even treats? I’d say that is a reason to jump for joy!
What are you waiting for? Shop Oriental Trading today for all your Halloween costume needs!
What are your kids dressing as for Halloween this year?
I am an Oriental Trading blogger. All opinions are my own.