My kids are growing up. I don’t like to think about it and I certainly don’t talk about it, just ask my husband. He likes to bring up the future and he gets the look of death. I wish I could stop the continuous march of time, and just always have the kids be my little babies. Unfortunately, there is nothing I can do. It is relentless and unavoidable.
That’s not to say I don’t have moments of frustration. It is hard not to lose it when you’re asked the same questions over and over again. But the other night, when I heard my son call out, like he does every night. Instead of getting annoyed, a lightbulb went off in my head. One day this will stop and I immediately felt empty.
Mommy, can you tuck me in?
It happens every night. We say goodnight, give love, and put them to bed. My son ends up out of bed playing his room, while my daughter reads. It is how they unwind after the day. I’m the same way. But it never fails, that as soon as I get comfy on the couch, starting my show on the DVR, he calls down to me. Mommy will you tuck me in?
Like I said, I won’t lie and say I never get frustrated or groan to myself. That night though, it hit me, and hard. The sweet, angelic voice calling to me, loves me. And when these nights come to an end, I will be sitting on the couch, uninterrupted, listening to the silence.
The silence of a house with no kids, with no one who needs me, and no one who wishes for me to tuck them in. In that moment I know the tears will come. They are coming now.
And on that day I will think of all those little requests and miss them. Parents, I know it’s hard somedays. But I’m making a silent promise to myself and to my children to be present, to stop minding that they are “interrupting me,” and to never overlook how precious this time we have together is. Because honestly, I want as many of these moments as I can get. As if somehow storing them up now will make it easier when they are few and far between. I don’t know if that is true but I like to think it is.
My daughter started middle school this year, and I was reminded of that saying the days are long but the years are short. I hate that saying and I hated people who said that to me. Thinking about it, I’m pretty sure my hate for the cliche stems from that fact that deep down I know it’s true. All I need to do is look at our photos on the wall to see just how much the kids have grown. Now as I sit here contemplating them growing up, I’m ready to admit the truth behind that saying.
Watching my son grow into a little man has been fun but hard. I looked at him this morning before school and thought, when did you get so big? He asked me why I looked sad and I said oh you know I want you to stay little forever. He laughed, said “I can’t shrink,” and went about getting his backpack ready for school. Immediately it flashed in my mind, the days of him asking me to tuck him in, one more kiss, one more hug will be over before I know it.
Moms, I know it has been a long day. The kids have probably driven you up and over the wall. I get it. Silence and stillness are coming for you in the future. One day you won’t have anyone to talk to except the dog or cat. The house will be quiet, the floors cleaned. You won’t even trip over Lightning McQueen left in the middle of the floor. No one will care where you are, what you are doing, and why busses are yellow and not lime green. And that day will be a sad one indeed.
My word for 2018 is present. I want to be present in my children’s lives, not taking for granted the little bit of time I have with them.
To my baby boy, Mommy will always tuck you in.
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Amy has a seemingly perfect life, until it all comes crashing to a halt. She is about to snap. Amy joins forces with two other over-stressed moms on a quest to drop the mom guilt, stop keeping up with Joneses, and have some un-mom-like fun! Of course not everyone is a fan of being unconventional, and they have a big run in the the Queen Bee of the PTA and her over-the-top clique of moms.
Bad Moms is a hilarious comedy that every not-so-perfect mom will appreciate. My friends and I laughed until we cried throughout this movie. But aside from the laughter, this movie teaches us all something about being a mom. We don’t have to be an angel, make everything from scratch, or be everything to everyone. We just have to love our children, be there for them, and be the best mom that we can be. I don’t need to be like you and you don’t need to be like me. What a relief!
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- Group text your mom friends who could all use a night off. So all of them.
- Plan a night that works for everyone. Use your best mom-is-fed-up voice if you have to on the dads.
- Everyone bring something. Try to balance out the food to drink ratios. You know your kids will not let you sleep off that headache in the morning.
- The rule at my house is comfy clothes. You do not need a ballgown on for this party.
- Sit back, relax, and enjoy the fact you don’t have to take anyone potty.
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As Jonas rolls into the DC Metro Area this weekend I can already feel the anxiety building with the moms I know. We are going to be stuck inside for how many days?! How am I going to entertain the kids? Don’t panic I have you covered. Bonus these ideas do not involve crafts, because lets face it I love a cute craft but sometimes I just do not want the mess that crafting brings.
12 Snow Day Activities for Kids that do not involve crafts all over your house!
A Large Cardboard Box
These boxes will become whatever your kiddos envision them to be. A rocket ship, a play house, a roller coaster, the possibilities are endless when it comes to the imagination. If you don’t have one of hand, local appliance stores might have some for you. But really any box will do or paper bag.
Who doesn’t love a good blanket fort?
Mix it up with Freeze Dance or Mommy Says type action. It’s also a great way to get sillies out when you are going stir crazy!
This one admittedly is not my favorite. I really hate Play-Doh, it’s almost like having crafts out because the little pieces get everywhere. But the kids really like it and it’s easier to clean up than 1 million tiny scraps of paper so I’ll include it.
Activity Books & Board Games
Before Christmas, I shared about the Disney Imagicademy activity books by Wonder Forge. They are great for keeping the kids engaged for a few hours. It’s like busy books for older kids 😉 Board games- no brainer, the whole family can have a blast!
Lights, Camera, Action!
Give the kids a recording device and be amazed at the show they put on. Just wait until you hear the jokes they come up with. Apparently they are “really laugh out loud Mommy!” My kids love using the LeapFrog LeapPad or Epic to record each other doing silly things.
Do your kids love taking pictures? Mine sure do. I will put up a blanket or some sort of make shift back drop and they grab all the “props” they want from past Birthday parties and have at it. Download the free Pocketbooth app and if you want to print them out, HP Photo Strips are perfect for these candid shots!
When the local craft stores have big sales on canvas I like to pick up a few. The kids love to embrace their inner artists and you get one of a kind pieces to decorate with.
Kids LOVE to help in the kitchen. It also gets them excited to try new things. This is my recipe for Organic Gluten Free Dairy Free Chocolate Chip Cookies. You don’t have to make them gluten free and they are dairy free by chance, but they taste so delicious you will never know the difference!
Make it a contest to see who can build the tallest tower and this activity will last for hours!
Practice your balance skills as you try to avoid the lava that is all over the floor!!
Book Club & Movie Night
Before the big storm or long break hits, stock up on books and/or movies at the local library. For book club, make some hot chocolate, grab those cookies you made, and sit down to discuss your favorite books. When it’s time to switch to movie night, spread blankets on the floor for an inside picnic. We like to make our own personal pizzas to eat while we watch.
As Snowmageddon 2016 roles into the Northeast, I hope these ideas will keep everyone entertained and Mommy sane! Stay warm!
For additional ideas check out 3 Quick & Dirty Indoor Toddler Energy Busters from Ms Dana Ryan!
What are your favorite non-craft things to do with the kids?
You’re going to laugh at me for this one. I was playing the Inside Out game on my phone and could not get past this one level- 133. I even looked up the youtube video on how to beat it. Shameful I know. It was so bad and after a week of being unable to free all the workers, I was ready to stop playing. My cheerleaders however had other plans. They love watching me play, hearing the emotions talk, and saying You’re going to win! When I was muttering about never playing this game ever again my daughter looks at me and says Mommy, you shouldn’t give up. Just keep trying and do your best.
She was right of course. And what got me the most was that she was repeating advice I had given her and her brother. It was a moment when my not-so-little Princess really showed she is growing up. I felt all warm inside knowing this was proof my life lessons weren’t falling on deaf ears. Tears in my eyes, I hugged her and said I promise I won’t give up.
That got me thinking, what other sage advice is hiding in the minds of kids. So I asked my children and some of their friends what advice they had for adults. I hope these make you smile like they did for me!
- Keep trying. You’re probably bigger than your problem so act like it – 9 year old
- If you can’t reach what you want, get a ladder – 6 year old
- If you want to travel the world, take a plane a car would take too long unless the place was right by your house- 8 year old
- If you can’t be a doctor you should be a pirate. They are really cool – 5 year old
- It’s okay to cry. Hug your baby lion like this – 4 year old
- Girls can be anything they want, like a doctor, a football player, or a princess. Maybe even all 3 at the same time – 7 year old
- If an adult loses their keys, they should look were they were yesterday-5 year old
- If really want something you have to save up all the money in your piggy bank. That’s how it works you know – 6 year old
- If someone needs help you should help them, like Spider-Man – 5 year old
You’ll be happy to know, or you’ll laugh at me some more, that I did finally beat that level, and received huge hugs from both kiddos for my accomplishment. But what is more important than finally being past it is that I could tell her she was right. I told her I took your advice, I didn’t give up and I finally made it. After squeezing me she said I knew you could do it, you just had to know. *heart full*
What is the best or funniest advice a kid has ever given you?